The FIRST THING TO DO...
is to find your venue for your wedding day, BUT having a wedding guest list in hand before you trot over to your favorite venue will be helpful. You can't very well stuff those 300 people in a barn. So you have to narrow down your guest list. We suggest having a list for you and your intended, one for the bride's side and one for the groom's side. Once you've consolidated the lists, you'll have a starting off point.
This is the time when you might need to have a really frank conversation with your soon to be mother-in-law about why Uncle Urkle who we haven't seen in 20 years is invited to your wedding. Remember, this is about YOU and your soon to be husband (yes, husband). It's ok to speak your mind. It can be tough to breech that topic sometimes, so having a planner/coordinator as a buffer might help.
PRO TIP: One great way to decrease the cost of the wedding is to cut down the guest list!
GUEST LIST QUESTIONS TO DISCUSS WITH YOUR PARTNER
What are your goals? What are your goals for the wedding? Small and intimate? Huge and intimate? A celebration of community? What does that mean for your guest list?
How many people are coming? Realistically, for each of you, roughly how many people do you have to invite? Don’t forget about the parents - they will have their own separate guestlist. Embrace it. Smile. Try to smile.
What else should you be thinking about? Will you include plus ones for single guests? Will you be including kids? How many of your guests will be local? How many of your guests will be traveling for the wedding?